Make-up, Mince Pies, Mindfulness and Maternal mental Health. Such a positive morning and one of the best mother and baby groups I have been to! More than Mum Network came to talk openly about experiences with Maternal Mental Health and added a bit of glam by helping mums with makeup tips for the festive season and Jo from Baby Mindfulness ran a Mindfulness session for the babies! For more information follow them on Instagram @more_than_mum_network and @babymindfulharrogate #morethanjustatickbox
I have a huge amount of posts coming up in the next couple of weeks covering the first 3 months of Liberty’s life to explain my motherhood journey covering baby illness to breastfeeding then bathtime to sleep training and mental health issues! I want to help other mums who need some guidance as struggled to find all the information I needed as had so many questions! Please note that the guidance provided is not the set way! Every baby is different and is based on my experience alone.
I started to write my posts and what I have experienced when doing the night feeds.
Everything single thing Liberty does from hiccups, having cold hands to putting her fists in her mouth I googled and followed blogs and forums from other mums relating to their experience with these things I was learning about.
There were so many areas to cover so I have broken them down into sections listed below:
- Breastfeeding, expressing and formula
- Sleep training
- Baby classes
- Post baby body
- Baby development (link to classes)
- Baby jabs
- Mental health overview
- Teething (TBC)
- Return to work plans and nursery (TBC)
- Weaning (TBC)
As you have seen, I have prepared everything from Liberty’s nursery to my visual birth plan, met with my care team several million times to prepare myself medically and packed my bags ready for labour. With all this, you could say that I was ready! That couldn’t be any further from the truth! I am so unprepared mentally. You hear many stories that fear and mental blocks can physically stop something from happening , this can apparently be the same with labour. Once you have spoken out loud and released the negative thoughts and fear and let them go, things start to happen. With 5 days to go, I need to learn to let go and become mentally prepared.
Back to the Birth Bible (Milli’s book) there is a section about overcoming fears and mental blocks so I have decided to review the list of ideas (Page 142) and chosen to write a letter to Liberty. This letter will explain how I feel about the birth and how I feel about her. I know this letter won’t be easy to write but will be an honest open letter of all the feelings I have addressed to my daughter. So here goes…
Continue reading “Are you prepared? Physically ✅ Medically ✅ Mentally – ❌ – Overcoming my Fear and Mental Blocks – Open Letter to Liberty”
With 2 weeks to go before Liberty is due to arrive, I have finally packed my hospital bag! (This meaning I have put things in the bag as I had already prepared it weeks ago #superorganised😊). I had read so many different sites, blogs and forums about what to pack and decided I would use a mixture of Baby Centre’s, Milli’s (from the Positive Birth Book) and the one I was provided from the Hospital.
Continue reading “The scariest packing that I have ever done – What to pack in your hospital bag”
Following on from creating my Visual Birth Plan, you may have noticed that there were two plans which needed to be referred to separately, these being:
- Special Requirements – After birth care plan
- Breastfeeding Plan
After the Perinatal mental health meeting, it was noted that a plan needed to be created for my aftercare once Liberty is here to ensure that if I am showing any signs of either postnatal depression or postpartum psychosis, then I can get the support I need quickly. Also a plan would need to be created if I was to breastfeed following on from further research relating to the whole lamotrigine in breastmilk situation where I am able to still take my medication and how much transfer into my milk is kept to a minimum.
Continue reading “WE HAVE A COMPLETE PLAN: The missing pieces to the mental health birth plan have been finalised (only taken 4 months) – Aftercare and Breastfeeding Plans”
So at Week 36 the countdown has officially commenced! I have finally written my birth plan (sorry meant preference) So here goes:
MY VISUAL BIRTH PLAN:
Continue reading “My Visual Birth Plan (sorry meant preference)”
With all the drama planning for the what ifs around my mental health when Liberty arrives and whether my meds would cause issues when it came to breastfeeding, I haven’t actually been asked what kind of birth I would like. Before I was pregnant I would joke saying that I was too posh to push and have my labour booked in and plan my labour around my life. I would want the baby to come ‘out of the sunroof’ if you know what I mean as no way I would want to it to come out of my V. The thought terrified me! So it was time to ask myself what kind of birth I actually wanted.
Having no clue, a colleague at work suggested a book which was the ‘NO BS’ book to pregnancy, birth and the early days which would cover everything I wanted to know and all the things I hadn’t even thought of! The book was called ‘The Positive Birth Book’ by Milli Hill.
Continue reading “How am I going to get Liberty out? Planning for Labour using The Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill – PART 1”
People have asked me many times whether we were going to take a break just the two of us before Liberty arrives. Apparently there is a trend that expectant parents do before child birth which is referred to as a babymoon! This means having one last relaxing/romantic holiday as a childless couple. It is almost bittersweet! You get a reason to go on holiday however it will never be the same again! As candlelit dinners and ‘do not disturb’ turns into Bottle feed and Bedtime stories at 7pm.
Continue reading “Before candlelit dinners and ‘do not disturb’ turns into Bottle feed and Bedtime stories – Introduction to the trend of babymoons”
Sorry for the delay, had a week full of appointments from meeting with my psychiatrist to meeting a family outreach worker part of the prevention team, the health visitor meet and greet and then therapy, Aquanatal and then just to top it off, I had to have a root canal at the Dentist #FML
Due to my mental health issues, I was referred to the Perinatal Mental Health service in Leeds for an assessment. It understand why as the Perinatal Mental Health Service provides specialist input to women experiencing significant mental health difficulties during pregnancy and the first year following a child’s birth.
Continue reading “You need to plan how to stay well before even thinking about how you want to give birth! – Intro to Perinatal Mental Health Services and other services”
Naughty Liberty! Treating my insides like a pinball machine and kicking me in the back constantly for 4 hours! She literally would not stop moving (like her mother when she is trying to watch a film) Don’t worry I’m okay! Needed to be on the heart monitor machine for an hour as she wouldn’t stay still enough to get a consistent reading! Thank god for the amazing people at the Maternity Assessment Clinic for monitoring Liberty to ensure she is okay! So worried to call the clinic in case I was panicking for no reason but that is what the service is there for! So if in doubt, call!!! Here’s to more physio and stronger painkillers! 🤰🏻🤕🥊 #pregnancyproblems🖤